As of 9/5/09 we have been waiting for our child for 3 long years. It’s hard to believe, it was never even imagined that we would hit that mark. Needless to say it’s a long way from the estimated 12-16 month timeline we were given when we started the adoption process. (Just for the record we don’t blame our agency.)
Honestly, it’s hard to even work our heads around it. This has been the longest and hardest things we have had to deal with, EVER! This makes IVF look like a walk in the park. I guess the biggest issue with the whole thing is that there are no concrete answers. No answers about why the wait increased, how long it could really wind up being, or what the reasons for the increased timeline are. Sure, there is speculation, rumor, and vague statements about it but nothing that clearly says the wait was caused by A, B, and C.
What started out as an exciting and hopeful journey has turned into a really bad road trip. You know the one… the car breaks down, then you get lost, and the next thing you know you've lost your hotel reservation. Then it’s only about the last day of the trip that you begin to get over the bad beginning and have fun. Of course during all these mishaps you run the emotional gauntlet ranging from excitement to flat out depression at the thought that it could possibly get worse before it’s over.
For those of you who are lost in the quagmire of the wait and those of you have already endured it, I’m sure you can relate. It’s painful. It’s frustrating. It just plain old makes you angry. As the wait goes on and on your expenses go up and up adding yet another level of frustration to the whole thing. Not to mention there doesn't seem to be an end to it anytime in the near future.
Despite all that, we will continue to wait. What choice do we have? Our child is in China.
For those of you who have been along for the ride – thanks for your support, your shoulders, and your words of comfort. Without you enduring this would have been impossible.
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Who would have thought that it would be over three years? Sorry that it has been such a bad road trip. Parying that you'll see your child sooner than you are expecting.
Kelly S., I haven't been visiting blogs much lately, but was catching up... I know this is an older post, but I wanted to say, there really isn't a month that goes by that I don't think about you and especially the ones waiting for their first child. You have been ever so patient in this whole process (not to mention the patience it took to even get to the point of beginning this adoption journey). When I think of the day that we all start to get our referrals, I know I am going to be sOOOOO excited to see your referral picture... This bad road trip will end beautifully.... I hope and pray it is soon. blessings.
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